Another barrier to change is often what people will think of us. Psychologists Larry Took and Graham Lindegger explain that following the desires of the true self can feel like one is betraying certain loyalties.\u00a0And indeed, sharing our dreams with others can feel like holding out a delicate flower to be squashed. But their response may be coming from fear or our strong cultural conditioning for the need for security. And a fear response in others will often come across as judgmental, such that sometimes it takes great courage to have the conversation that is needed in order to initiate some changes. But every small step starts right now. “Take the first step.” says David Whyte. “And start with what you have now,” KwaZulu-Natal Ezemvelo’s Ncami MaDlamini advised me, “don’t wait until you have everything you need to make your full dream come true \u2013 the big picture can overwhelm and paralyse one into inaction. Start something small alongside your current life situation.<\/p>\n
Dare to dream<\/p><\/div>\n
For me I had fun one lazy Saturday morning drawing up a \u2018Bucket List\u2019. Then as I was looking at my list I suddenly realised I needed to do approximately one thing a year if I was going to fit it all into this one short life. I shrugged and thought \u201cBest I get going then.\u201d I resolved \u201cUpdating the house can wait until I am much older and don\u2019t feel like traveling any more\u201d and I started with the smallest, easiest travel dream and have been working my way through my evolving list ever since.<\/p>\n
So, seriously, if money was no object, what would you do with your life? And are your dreams so terribly unrealistic, or is there one small step or one scary little conversation that you might be able to make right now towards realising these dreams? Nature poet Mary Oliver spurs us on, asking<\/p>\n
\u201cWhat is it you will do with your one wild and precious life?\u201d<\/p>\n
What is it you will do with your one wild and precious life?<\/p><\/div>\n
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Berenice Meintjes of Characterstays writes the following in her latest post for Isibindi Africa, which was published on Africa Geographic\u00a0earlier this week… Being a psychologist, I tend to ask a few inappropriate personal questions to people I meet. One of my favourite questions is this: “If money was no object, what would you do with…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1378,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[44,84,49],"tags":[228,12,532,533,534,535,536,537],"yoast_head":"\n
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